Marriage Interview with Selenia Garcia.

Hello there! My name is Selenia Garcia. I’m 31 years old. I juggle the roles of a wife, mom, and my career in healthcare administration. I love every single one! I’ve been married for 3.5 years and have two beautiful sons who I absolutely adore!

What is your favorite thing about being a wife?

My favorite thing about being a wife is having a best friend at my side at all times-companionship. It’s a beautiful thing. God amazes me, I never pictured myself being married or having kids, but he had this planned all along. I know that regardless of what challenges I face, I have a husband by my side who is going to support me and walk alongside of me. We get along great and I truly consider him my best friend. He always puts a smile on my face and assures me I’m loved.

As a wife how do you show Christ love to your husband daily?

This question made me sigh. It’s a tough one and I wish I was better at this. Life is so busy so I try to show him love in the everyday life, simple things like acknowledging him in the mornings when I first wake up, asking him if he needs me to do anything for him, sending him thoughtful texts throughout the day, and just encouraging him in everything he does. I remember when we were doing premarital counseling before marriage. We were told that our marriage was our first ministry and that really stuck to me and it just makes sense. If God is not present in our marriage, in our home then we can’t expect him to use us outside of our home.

What are some ways you communicate with your spouse?

We communicate a lot through text when we are outside of the home. Doesn’t everybody? At home, it’s difficult to communicate with two little ones who are demanding your attention at all times. We end the day by spending some time together when our boys have gone to bed, even if it’s just a few minutes talking about our day. We’ve learned that we are different, we won’t always agree and communication is key. God made us different as a man and woman. We have different needs, different wants and different expectations. We are learning to understand each other and communicate our thoughts. When we first got married, communication was difficult. It’s not perfect now but has definitely gotten better.

What are some changes in your marriage now with kids?

Let me start off by saying that I love date night! J Scheduling date nights was a big change, having to find sitters so we can have some time to ourselves is challenging. It makes me appreciate our time alone together so much more. I love my boys, but it is definitely tough having a toddler and an infant. Then throw our jobs in the mix and life gets crazy. We now have big responsibility in addition to our marriage and that’s being parents. We’ve definitely had some challenges as parents but have grown and learned together. I absolutely love seeing my husband love on his boys. He’s a great dad and I really enjoy seeing them laugh and play together. I just love my family. I am blessed. I pray that my boys grow to love and serve God wholeheartedly.

What's a piece of advice you would share with another wife?

Respect your husband! Honor him. He is your gift from God. Encourage him at all times, be his number one supporter.When your husband speaks listen, give him your undivided attention. This takes work because there are so many distractions, but it’s very important. Cherish every moment God has given you with him.